Well Being Vs. Misery

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Well Being v. Misery

It's been said that each person has a choice to cultivate one of two things: either well-being or misery.

This primary choice is at the root of all the other decisions a person makes in a lifetime; and has a far-reaching affect on how he/she relates to others. To follow are some indicators of how this cultivated state plays out in specific areas of one's life.

choice: well being	choice: misery
willingness to promote physical vitality by exercising, self care, etc.	will take care of physical problems when they arise
handles minor details of life (paperwork, cleaning, keeping agreements, etc.) even if seemingly unimportant	gets stressed by minor details of life; often ignores those that are deemed unworthy.
feels joy regularly	feels irritated regularly
expresses gratitude	expresses dissatisfaction
feels serene even through emotional "dips"	feels agitated even through emotional "highs"
"I know I'll come out of this better than ever."	"I'm scared because I'm happy, and it won't last"
embraces/initiates change	fears/stops change
in relationships: "Its so good being with you."	in relationships: "Please be with me tomorrow."
adapts to unpleasant surprises	is paralyzed by unpleasant surprises
philosophy accepts negatives, without dwelling on them	philosophy gives negatives more weight than positives
lives with daily awareness of death	experiences acute fear of death
in times of struggle: inspires others as example of hope, heroism and happiness	in times of struggle: drains others through narcissism, criticism and anger
for fun: creates, gives, plays, shares. Entertainment has overarching purpose.	for fun: substance use, sleep, self-indulgence. Entertainment has no other purpose.
manages emotions	moved by emotions
acts on rational decision	moves by emotional reaction
thinks purposefully, in self-programmed way	thinks habitually, in programmed way
benefit: experiencing emotions of choice.	benefit: attention, pity, the action of others, emotional "charge"
energy level: sustainable	energy level: peaks and valleys
makes decisions based on values and principals	makes decisions based on desire.

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After several years of coaching, I've realized that transition (either immediate or desired) is the core of what most people want in their lives... and fear simultaneously.

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